So. My sister is getting married today. I don’t really have time to write about it, but since it is likely going to be one of the most important days of her life and one I will remember as well, I thought I might document that the occasion happened, at least with a paragraph or two.
Because – the reason I am continuing this blog is exactly that…to document my thoughts and experiences. I couldn’t honestly care less if anyone followed my blog or not, although I am happy to see that the readership is going up again. I am doing it for myself and for the family that I hope to have some day. That is, for the kids and the grandkids, and so on.
I would have loved to be able to read the thoughts of my grandfather or great-grandfather if I could. More than that, it is about leaving a mark in history. You and I are just a blip compared to the big picture. Bill Clinton, still a blip, but a slightly larger one.
What I’m getting at is that I think that I have found my “purpose” in this life. Besides getting the most out of it myself, it is to make a positive and authentic impact on other peoples’ lives. And the epitome of that would for me being finding my soulmate. Not to say that i believe in certain people being MADE for each other – really, it’s just random – but I believe that two people can BECOME made for each other by way of being there for one another unconditionally.
Now, there are many things that I could say about marriage and more importantly about the companionship that is behind the institution. To me, the most beautiful thing in this world is when two people can work out living with each other, and continue to love each other, in the long run. Yes, I am a hopeless romantic, although it is, in the end, far from being the most defining part of who I am. My unravelling dark sides seem to get in the way of that.
But unfortunately, most people seem to find unconditional love difficult to achieve. That people stay married for 20, 30, or 40 years does not necessarily mean that their marriage fulfills them.
So, as I celebrate this great day when my sister got (gets) married, I also take a solemn moment to ponder about the difficulty of finding true, unconditional love. Because, frankly, I am not sure if I have ever (maybe once or twice) met a couple who lived up to the (unconditional) conditions that I am looking to meet.
Now, I know that most people would say that they have the same goals as I do, but I also know that most stop short of them. They settle. So on this great day, on which love is celebrated, I make the vow not to settle. I have met girls that were right for me, but I was not right for them. And…it takes two to tango. So to speak.
So, good luck to all and cheers!
J.
